So, Bruges was great. A few photos below for your enjoyment, rest at the photoset here.
Think I need to do more travelling. The trip really fired up the imagination and was very fun. Bruges is a fantastically relaxed town to visit…
So, Bruges was great. A few photos below for your enjoyment, rest at the photoset here.
Think I need to do more travelling. The trip really fired up the imagination and was very fun. Bruges is a fantastically relaxed town to visit…
Towelling, mostly.
That’s a complete and utter guess. Simon Singh would not be impressed.
There are a lot of bikes, though.
So, the obligatory holiday post. Bruges is lovely; its a really picturesque town with generally wide streets, low buildings, plenty of light and a really good vibe – even if the people look quite grumpy for the most part, most of them are really friendly. The one exception was the waiter in Haagen Dazs (an American shop we went into for the comedy of it, and the waffles…) who said without any of the soothing Kelsey Grammar tones “I’m listening” when we indicated we were interested in take away.
Some cities grow organically – like London, growing painfully to meet the ever growing needs of its inhabitants. In Tallin, on the other hand, the beautiful old town is perfectly structured – until it comes to an abrupt end against a cold-war-fashioned new town. Bruges is in a third catagory – and is completely consistent in its quaint charm, as if its run by a council of architectural fascists with a fondness for red-brick construction. That is, and as pointed out by our taxi driver on the way in, with the exception of the new concert hall, which is a red concrete slab behemoth of a building, and is truly hideous. Anyway, aside over…
We’ve been mostly eating and relaxing, and doing the obligatory visits to Church that time with family and Easter entails, which has been good. Sheila’s boyfriend Dave and I have been challenging each other to eat stupid things (or stupid amounts) and there’s been good laughs all around – parents are on good form too.
Today, we had a bit of an adventure; we rented bikes, Dave taught Sheila how to cycle, we plonked her on the back of a tandem and cycled into the nearby village of Damme (Damn-ne) — which sparked numerous puns and references to the ‘Muscles from Brussels’ himself, Jean Claude van Damme. There was a windmill, a church, and a couple of really nice restaraunts. Had the best steak ever at a place called De Spieghel, which is a recommended venue if you pass through that way. It was a 14km return journey, so needless to say, I’m knackered now…
More will come, and with photos. But so far this has seems a wonderful city and I may well come back here. I I seem to have developed a unhealthy fondness for blond beers (although my fave beer so far is still Hoegarden, albeit at a fraction of the UK prices).
At Waterloo I thought it might be nice to pick up a PDA with wireless capability so I could blog remotely. I looked and looked for a notebook that suited the requirements, but whether due to Dixons decision to rebrand as Currys Digital or some other circumstance of fate, there was a rather limited selection of electronic notebooks available.
So I got a lower model.
Ages ago (back when I was blogging with motime for cryin’ out loud), I wrote about ‘manual blogging’ – using archaic ‘writing’ technology to pen my thoughts on a convenient napkin of sorts. Now, I bring you manual blogging 2.0 — my very own little black notebook, in which, much to the frustration of my family, I have been writing down every joke I (or anyone else) has made, random observations about life, and occasionally just a list of what I ate for dinner in the hope that it will provide useful fodder for blog posts, and, in the main, for the upcoming novel…
We’ll see. It’s definitely fun — feel I’m capturing valuable imagination capital that might otherwise be lost. Like Jerry Seinfeld, however, there is the occasional scribble that doesn’t make sense to me the day after… For example, why did I write down ‘nun with soft-boiled egg’ on the first day here in Bruges?
Of course, now that we’ve piggy backed onto a wireless network in the hotel I can blog directly, but I like the little black book and it may come in handy in the future. At UKP2.75 it was a damn site cheaper than a WiFi enabled PDA, anyway :).
Sorry, misleading post title there. It’s really Armand in Bruges, where I’ll be Eastering with my family, so there will be no flurry of posts this weekend. The good news is there may finally be a photo or two when I get back.
Aside: has anyone else had a massively inflated number of easter related email forwards this year? They’re really irritating. Although the one with the deaf bunny and the sore bunny was quite amusing.
Daf showed me his China pics today. Something massively impressive about the photos of the wall, and the scale of the Summer Palace, the Forbidden City and Tiananmen square. Somehow having someone you know stand in the picture puts it into a frame of reference you can really understand.
I think Douglas Adams summed it up when he described space:
Space is big. You just won’t believe how vastly, hugely, mind- bogglingly big it is. I mean, you may think it’s a long way down the road to the chemist’s, but that’s just peanuts to space.
It’s taken me more work and caused me more stress to (not even manage to) book a holiday this summer than it took me to map out the initial parameters of my novel. Argh.
If anyone wants to *give* me a villa in Greece for the summer it’d be appreciated…
Sonu’s wedding was a great experience, in multiple parts – although four clearly recognisable categories & pictures will hopefully allow for a moderately cohesive narrative.
Sonu is my mother’s sister’s daugher – my first cousin – and whilst we’ve grown up with each other in bits and pieces, she’s spent most of her life in India – which I visited for the first time ever last week. MBA qualified & possibly one of the most dutiful and loving people I know (with the possible exception of her sister, Monu, wedding planner extraordinaire… ;)), it’s not really a surprise that she’s picked up a very charming, personable, responsible husband in Chirag – and it was great fun, very emotional, and a phenomenal cultural experience to share the proceedings with them.
Stage the first – the [[mehndi]] ceremony
Although this is not the domain of the boys of the family, this was the point at which I arrived in India; my cousins, sister, aunt, and many female relatives I was meeting for the first time were in the process of getting their arms painted with [[henna]], a natural die that leaves temporary tattoos on skin (if left to patiently dry for long enough). It is tradition for the girls in a wedding party to all have some form of mehndi art on their arms, and Sonu’s was particularly elaborate. Sheila’s was pretty good – she was unwell and dozed off with the henna still thick on her arms – resulting in a particularly impressive dye…
There was food, and something of surprise as we all experienced the unique way in which my cousin’s family made us feel welcome. The street outside their house, with the agreement of their neighbours, had been sealed off, marqueed & carpeted (completely obstructing any traffic), and set up with food. The cook, reportedly drunk, provided us with excellent fayre, and was completely unphased by the presence of a bullock parked next to the motorcycles that surrounded his gas stove & oil-filled wok.
Following a brief interlude in the evening – which took longer than expected, due to the bizarre jetlag I seemed to suffer from, we returned to the party and hour and a half after it was scheduled to begin – to find we were the first guests! An hour later, the entire neighbourhood, their friends and family; all were dancing on a stage to explosively loud Indian pop music, interspersed with occasional live Indian drumming from a trio of freelance drummers who didn’t quite know when they were meant to be playing… and consequently competed with the DJs for volume on occasion. Amazing to see a party to come to life quite so rapidly. Dinner was served (after an entire evening spent eating large amounts of starters) at 11pm, and the party began to wrap up at about 11.30pm, after a number of inexplicable ceremonies involving a pot, large wads of 10 rupee notes, a pyromaniac and a large bundle of fireworks, and some great gifts we were presented with. This summary barely does it justice; hopefully some of the pictures will be more illustrative… All at Flickr, as usual.
Stage the second – the wedding ceremony
Unusual in using three priests, having a wedding bower built on a fire refuge on the fourth floor of our hotel, the Hotel Nikko Delhi, the ceremony was strange for someone with a moderately Western cultural mindset as it really was about two families coming together. To that end, and given that the two hour ceremony took place more or less entirely in Sanskrit, much of the proceedings were moderately incomprehensible to me – but very moving nonetheless.
A great party ensued & preceded this; although Sonu & Chirag had to spend much of their time posing for photos and didn’t get to eat till about 1am. Hard work, getting married! My responsibility – and Arvind’s, and a couple of other male relatives (Johnny & Sanjay?) had to carry a lattice of flowers over the heads of the bridge & groom as the proceeded into the main chamber – an arm-tiring, but positive experience. Very touched to be given such a significant role.
After all that, though, they were finally married, and it was, as Monu put it: “party time.” Of course, as it was 2am at this stage, there was limited partying – just a family dinner and some more photography – but the next night was another opportunity for Indian dancing…
Stage the third – ‘party time’
At a country club (or something like that) in southern Delhi, we danced and ate again, this time hosted by Chirag’s family — and therefore the first formal non-veg meal of the trip. Great food, amazing dancing once again (with Mum and Dad getting involved again — utterly out of character for my, erm, somewhat corporate father). Another amazing evening, great food, and some time spent hanging out with the beautiful twins, Milia and Marissa (Johnny & Ruby’s adorable twin daughters).
Stage the fourth – family dinner
Indian weddings have been known to go on for months at a time, so that the fourth and final celebration for Sonu & Chirag was a quiet family dinner with a mere 12 of us attending was hardly extravagant. It was a great evening though; we all made little speeches thanks to Sonu’s emotional and insistent father, Uncle Suresh, and ate yet more amazing Indian food. Even though I grew up eating similar food in Malaysia, the Indian experience was very different…
In short; an awesome experience. The scope and scale of India, which I barely touched on, is enormous; like a sleeping giant that those without an experience of it can barely imagine. My pride and happinness for my cousins and their family is enormous. What a trip.
Three afterthoughts, and then out for now. This is already too long a blog post…
Note A: Food: My family fed me incessantly for four days. Mountains of cottage cheese, prepared in a number of different ways, pakora, potato tikki, dosai etc, in vegetarian mountainloads — and Chirag’s family provided a health quantity of “non-veg” options at their function too. Indian food is awesome, but it played havock with my digestion, and am pleased to not have to consider whether the water is likely to have come from a bottle or a tap…
Note B: Driving in Delhi: A terrifying experience. Apparently the “best city in India” to drive in, the entire experience was bizarre; off-road, dodging moto-rickshaws, constant tooting on car horns; insane would be too charitable a description! Massively impressed with my cousins’ ability to navigate it.
Note C: Cultural implications: There were some bits of India that I found hard to deal with and am glad my upbringing in Malaysia/the UK has allowed me to escape. The male-dominated social circles, the ever-present considerations of caste, race, wealth, the overwhelming and boundless poverty — all somewhat upsetting. Most of the proceedings, however, were dominated by a remarkable and powerful sense of family, which thankfully kept us clear of the trickier issues.
So, two days into Delhi, and it’s been an experience and a half so far. First trip here, bizarrely enough. For someone as apparently cosmopolitan as I am generally expected/thought to be (although not for those who’ve seen my countries I have visited map) — or at least, cosmopolitan by average English standards — I guess it shouldn’t be a surprise how truly… different a place can be.
Other countries (in my admittedly limited experience) might be said to be sheepish about their national identities, and mask many aspects of their unique local traditions under the plywood veneer that goes by the apparently desirable and innocuous tag of “globalisation” or “modernisation.” India, whilst by no means untouched by the evil multinationals, almost immediately confronts you with sights, smells, people, traditions, that are characteristically, unpretentiously, Indian. I guess it has been a bit of a surprise for me, having lived a somewhat sheltered existence in Malaysia and England.
The Malaysian government has long sought (with some success) to foster a slightly artificial sense of what constitutes “Malaysianness”, and every representation of that ‘vision’ (concept, whatever) has never failed to induce a sense of… well, contempt from me, for the sanitised, censored depiction of the people that are meant to represent us. These are evident from the moment you step free of the arrivals lounge. London, of course, plays by different rules to the rest of the world; everyone feels so much a part of and apart from anything that identifies with the city that means it can actually be difficult to feel alone in London.
Note: not an absolute statement; sure there are lots of lonely people in London (as the adverts in our phone booths testify…), but it just seems to me that if you grew up here, or moved here with friends or for university, you would pretty much have to try to feel completely alone. IMHO.
Indian advertising is guilty of similar manipulations and insidious imagery that the Malaysian government trades in – atypical, uncharacteristically white ‘Indians’ provide the face of every brand, home grown and multinational, on TV and in print. However, within a few hours of leaving the airport, we’d seen cattle roaming free on the highways, a donkey-and-cart, we’d been driven on the wrong side of a highway to overtake traffic, been hocked to at a traffic light by a street vendor, dodged a dozen motorised-rickshaws and then been overwhelmed by the colour and the shape of my cousin’s wedding preparations (which deserves, and will get, a separate post).
It is all a bit unreal… and yet familiar. Something of this place must resonate with a certain core of Indianness I have – and expected to find. And despite the familiar, there’s no doubt in my mind that I’m very much a foreigner here – although I recognise my unique brand of humility amongst many of my fellow Indian men. I look forward to exploring the streets of Old Delhi on Monday.
Oh – an my only issue with food/water, thus far, has been the soy milk I had with cereal this morning, which my mother brought for me from Malaysia. Note to self: if something expired in “07/04”, it is BAD. Unless I eventually get that Delorean I always wanted…
More to come. Definitely interesting times.